It was Jesus who told us to trust in God and in Him (John 14: 1). Is it easy to trust God? Humanly speaking, the first thing we often consider when trusting is if we have experienced failure in some way. If we find no failure or fault in a relationship, then we trust. The end result of this type of thinking is that trust can (and will) be broken rather quickly and easily; it only takes one incident of mistrust. Trust within a marriage relationship is tested quite often. If there is not a bank load of trust in the relationship, we will come to expect failure which, of course, will reinforce why we should not fully trust another, even God.
Close friends communicate deeply. Close Christian friends communicate with God: we call it prayer. Marriages that truly desire to build trust cannot do so through correct behavior, actions or reactions only. We all fail sometime. Marriages that meet within the intimacy of prayer, will find a trust that is deeper, less fault-finding and far more grace-filled than those marriages that do not engage in prayer. Married partners too often move toward a trusted same-sex friend to pray with, thwarting the very design of God for intimacy within the gift of marriage oneness. Want to build your trust bank? Start praying together regularly. (Perhaps you could leave a “reply” with this entry about how you have found prayer building trust in your marriage relationship in order to help others.)